Hiya Dudes! Wondering why you never get a response, eh? Don't worry
fellas, you're not alone! The most frequent complaints men share with
Cupid regarding this whole internet dating scene is that women don't
respond to their ads or email. Trust me. If you follow these simple
guidelines while writing both your free ad and your responses to womens' ads,
your chances will dramatically improve.
The Internet is the best place to actually meet and develope relationships with women that could possibly
turn into a real life long term relationship. Women feel more at ease online when interacting with single men, for obvious reasons.
It gives them a chance to get to know a man before having to go out on a real date. Use this to your advantage! Take these tips and
get started with meeting the perfect woman!
Best of luck to you!
Tips for the Single Man- do's and don'ts, pros and cons
Expediting the Web Dating Process: Online personals really
work. Everyone affiliated with this site has hooked up via internet personals,
which is why we're passionate about what we do. With the amazing advent of the
Internet, there's no reason why "anyone" "anywhere" should be single. My 65
year old mom is now dating (after almost 15 years) becasue I placed her ad in
ALL
the
major dating sites and match
services. She was overwhelmed with responses, from all over the planet!
She's been dating ever since, and finally found a nice (keeper) gent she claims
she'll hang on to a spell. :-)
Total Cost? Nadda. Zip. Zelch. With the millions...and millions...and
yes, millions of singles now getting hip into the Internet dating scene, you'll
surely hook up in a very short period of time, but you must follow some basic
guidelines. (My high end sites sometimes average over 10,000 new singles
joining daily!)
The trick and ultra hot tips to being successful can be broken down in three
basic steps. Follow them closely, and you WILL succeed! How do I know? I ran a
professional Online Matchmaking business for two years. We basically wrote and
placed "
very creative" personals all over the Web for busy professional
clients who didn't have the time/or know how to deal with it. We also created
personal websites for these clients with a biography, photo's and witty banter
regarding who and what they seeked. All the client had to do was open his or
her email, and boom! There were singles from all over wanting to know more
about them. It was a smashing success! We managed to hook up 99% of our clients
within a months time. The business got so large, so quick, that it became
overwhelming. I halted that biz because for the time spent, it was more
lucrative to create e-commerce websites, and a lot less stressful! We would
have over 100 inquires to our services daily! And we were only a four person
operation. Yes, we kept raising the prices, but they kept coming! I simply
couldn't hire enough staff to keep up with the work load. Burn out factor 101.
But, that's how I knew how popular online dating was going to be. 3 years and
almost 100 websites later, here we are! The largest dating, and "totally free"
personal ads network on the Internet! Let's rock....
The Almighty Personal Ad - Your first impression... your connection to
millions off potantail lovers, soulmate or spouses. Wow, I've seen hundreds and
hundreds, and the majority of them, well, SUCK! To be totally unbiased, I'm
going to grab a personal from one of our sites, and paste it right here. I
swear, this will be the only one I grab, making it a complelety random
selection. Be right back....
Here it is, so help me!
Headline: looking for true love
Profile ad: i live in
fayetteville,nc,i am seperated, divorce pending,i want a caring and honest
woman not afraid of love or commitment
TaDa! That's it! Can you believe that? And I bet he wonders why he nevers gets
a response? Sheesh...
Take The Time to create and craft a funny, witty,
and somewhat mysterious profile and for goodness sakes,
Spell Check! You
must
set yourself apart or you'll never any luck. The most "important"
thing is to use proper spelling and syntax when responding to ads. You only
have the one first chance to make a good impression. Most folks do not like
sloppy letters. USE YOUR SPELL CHECK for every outgoing message! One of the
reasons I use Love mail for my clients is because it has a good spell check
feature. It only takes a minute, yet can make all the difference. Also, people
are visual creatures. Use the stationery feature as well. Give your email some
color-you have many to choose from. Be creative! Let them remember you as the
cute single that had cute little hearts in his email! Stand out from all the
rest, and always come across as a nice human being!
Personal ads we wrote for our clients:
Gemini Juggler
Are you a liberal or conservative? A laugher or cryer? A licker or biter? I'm
both. Always both and yet neither. I'm an atheistic lover of many gods. . . a
sophisticate with toys in my bathtub . . . a genuine evil twin who loves to
perform missions of mercy. Honey, I always prefer paper and plastic. In fact,
there are so many sides to me that I often find I'm beside myself. Think you
can handle having five lovers in one? Being monogamous with me is just like
being totally promiscuous.
Zodiac Killer
We Virgos rarely brag--except when there's something we want. And I want you.
So I'm going to tell you what my astrologer said, which is that we Virgos are
the smartest lovers and sexiest geniuses in the entire zodiac. Now tell me
about yourself. Are you a frequent bather with strawberry breath and jet
pilot's eyes? Are you equally at home in silk and grunge, equally knowledgeable
about El Greco and L7? Do you have a slow hand but fast fingers? Know lots of
short cuts but have a long attention span? Then get over here now. I want to
bite you with my wit
Power Play
I've got the heart of a mountain-climber and the mind of an entrepreneur.
You're a timeless beauty who thinks the most fun thing that two people can have
together is to build things from the ground up. How about it: Want to work and
play together? Want to share the spiritual joys of powerwalking, powershopping
and powermongering? Let's gaze at the bottom line by day and oil up each
other's charisma by night. Please: no dice-rollers, white liars, or compulsive
jaywalkers. Must be willing to lose at chess.
Jungle Love
Tasmanian devil seeks sleek fox or wily coyote for interspecies communion. It's
a jungle out there, baybee. But I know some great trails, and I ain't afraid of
the deep, dark stuff. Put your little paw in mine and together we'll wade the
creeks and scale the cliffs amidst swinging on the vines of destiny. Are you
ready to have even more fun than merely being in love? Two grunts mean "yes,
dear." Two grunts and a howl mean "yes, dear, NOW!" *Schwing*
So, Which would you pick? The first example? Or one of the above. Nuff
said.
Uploading Pictures - I don't care who you are, where you're from or
What
you look like! Upload your photo's (at least two) so you give an idea
of what you look like. There's someone out there just for you, and if you write
an intelligent personal profile, your pics don't matter that mush. It only
matters that you DO have a picture to relate to the words.
You've made the decision to improve your love life, to seek romance
ond companionship among the millions of single women and men online who are
looking for just the same... Well, don't expect your soulmate to just come
knocking down your e-mail door, you have to
grab her
attention !
Picture is Worth Thousand Words Yadda Yadda-
Of course your great face in your photo personal ad will help, but
that is only the beginning. Thousands of singles are advertising themselves
with the same headlines "SWF age 35 125# 5'6" seeking SWM 35-45 for friendship
and possible ltr". That's great, but what does it say about the writer, besides
the fact that she's a single woman looking for a single man? Nothing that a
personal ad doesn't imply by itself.
You have to stand out from the crowd, advertise your finer points,
your best qualities, and your honest wishes and desires. That is the only way
to attract the single man or woman who is most likely to possess those same
qualities and is likely to be scanning the personals looking for someone just
like you.
So what are the keys to writing a successful personal ad ?
Be Honest - Don't Brag - Mind Your Cyber-Manners
Not many savvy singles will believe something along the lines of "Harvard
educated multimillionaire seeking somebody, anybody, to shower with gifts and
attention." If you write such a personal ad you are setting yourself up for
failure, as few will think of you as honest. Think about it: honesty is one of
the first traits that any single man or woman mentions when describing someone
with whom they wish to share friendship, a deeper relationship, and long
lasting love. So don't shoot yourself in the foot from the very start.
In your personal ad, write honestly about who you are, but just as
importantly, write about the single woman or man you seek. Include all those
characteristics you value in a partner, as well as more pragmatic criteria,
like geographic location, whether he or she smokes, has children, etc. In
short, make it possible for those that fit your criteria to be able to say
"that's me, and that's what I want too!" when they see your posted personal ad.
Do not set up any possible relationship for failure by lying from the
beginning. Any self-respecting single will pack his or her digital bags and
move on, sooner or later.
Write an attention-grabbing headline, stressing positive facts
contained in your personal ad. The first step in capturing someone's
imagination lies in capturing their attention, and for this, you need a clear
and concise statement setting yourself apart from the crowd. Use wit here, and
stress a quality which you believe singles would find most appealing. What can
you say about yourself in a single sentence which makes you irresistible to the
opposite sex?
Other Tips and Information
Another important factor to weigh when writing a good personal ad
is the amount of of specific information you should include. It is clearly best
to avoid posting specific personal information about yourself like addresses,
phone numbers etc., but usually other specifics, as to your occupation,
hobbies, interests, and background, are not only ok, but will greatly increase
your chance of piquing the curiosity of a like minded single man or woman.
Specifc about who YOU are and what YOU
seek
Be specific about who you're looking for too: if you know your
soulmate is a Buddhist, say so. If you are adamant about remaining childless,
convey that too. State your willingness to travel. The woman in Paris may not
respond when she notes you live in Rio, if you fail to mention that geographic
location is no barrier. The man in White Plains may skip your personal ad if he
thinks that you're only seeking a friend to chat online, when you're looking
for more, but your ad doesn't say so. What is your personal mantra ? Share it.
The man or woman who understands and appreciates it best, is the one who will
reply.
Finally, do not underestimate the power of a good first impression:
write your personal ad so that it is easy to understand, articulate, and to the
point; avoid making grmmar and spelling mistakes: didn't you just wince when
you saw that one? That is how most people react, and it does not speak well of
the writer. Remember, be honest, be specifc, be positive; these three qualities
will make your personal ad a solid one, and a bit of imagination will make it a
great one!
