Hiya Girls! As you may notice, our sites are geared towards men, but we sometimes get a thousand hits a day from you curious females so we thought we'd better make sure you have you're own corner. Beside, men need all the help they can get! Now girls, if you're going to try online dating, prepare to be deluged with more suitors than you ever dreamed possible!
The Internet is still male-dominated, (not much longer) and this time, that's to your advantage! Certain facts about men and women are not going to change, and
that most men will look first for a pretty face, is one of them. So, if you are looking for a man who
is interested in YOU...your mind, heart and spirit, in addition to your gorgeous mug, then your ad must
be crafted to attract the type of man you seek.
FACT: Thousands of men and women hook up weekly online!
So, single girl, who are you and what do you want? What sort of man do you desire? Think
about it, ponder it, make it concrete. Make a list of everything that is important to you that would
sustain a long lasting relationship. This may take some time, but time worth spending. A few hours,
days or even weeks is but a mere blip in the overall scheme of things when compared to spending years
in misery with an incompatible man, or a lifetime with your soulmate. Opt for the latter and do your
homework!
Common Sense Internet Dating Tips and Advice for Females.
Online dating is very popular these days, and getting more so by the
millions. About 40 million people are now using Internet dating sites to find love, sex, and
romance. But while
dating online has the advantages in its own, over the period of time this has been misused and
is corrupted by many
disadvantages.
Online Dating is fun and convenient but still one has to be very
careful while dating with someone over the net. Here are some tips
which may help you and be a guide for safe and sound online dating.
1. Start slow.
While dating over the net, watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by first
communicating solely via email. Be on the lookout for odd behavior or inconsistencies. "Listen" to
your correspondent's words. The person at the other end may not be who or what he/she says. Trust
your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.
2. Guard Your Anonymity. Never include your last name, real email
address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying
information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members. Make sure your email
signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with
a
member via your own email. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or
attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. Take all the time you need to become
comfortable with someone before revealing any personal contact information. Ask questions and make
sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be
selective.
3. Exercise Caution and Common Sense. Careful, well-thought decisions
generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too.
Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through
consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for
a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way. Take a relatively conservative
approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they
are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust. Conduct yourself and your
romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become
prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.
4. Request a Photo. A photo will give you a good idea of the person's
appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent. In fact,
it's best to view several images of this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor,
outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be because that person has
something to hide. Getting a photo scanned is
not expensive, so there is little excuse for not doing it.
5. Talk Via Telephone. A phone call can reveal much about a person's
communication and social skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your security. But do
not give out your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a cell phone number instead for added
security. Or make arrangements to call from a pay phone. Only when you feel completely comfortable
should you furnish your phone number.
6. Meet When YOU Are Ready. The beauty of meeting and relating online
is that you can gradually collect information and then make a choice about pursuing the
relationship in the real world. You are never obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of
online intimacy. And even if you do decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to
change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level
is based on a hunch that you can't logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your gut instincts,
even when they can't be logically explained. Never meet someone who argues against your instincts,
finds logical flaws with your feelings or pressures you in any way.
7. Watch for Red Flags. Pay attention to any displays of anger, intense
frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner,
making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red
flags. You should also be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without
providing an acceptable explanation:
- Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession,
employment
- Refuses to speak to you over the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
- Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
- Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona.
- Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.
8. Select the Safest Possible Environment. When you make the choice to
meet offline, always tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's
name and telephone number with that person. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home.
Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and
when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time
when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice. Avoid hikes, bike rides or
drives in remote areas for the first few dates. If you decide to move to another location, take
your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say
goodbye.
9. Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area. If you are flying in from
another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and
never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive
directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already
agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact
your date at that location, or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or
family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell
phone at all times.
10. Get Yourself Out of a Jam. Never do anything you feel unsure about.
If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get
out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the
scene for help, or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger call the
police. It's always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your
behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.
While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web,
you'll also find them in nightclubs, among the membership ranks of off-line dating services, at
cocktail parties, and occasionally sitting across from you at your local cafe. Regardless of where,
or how, you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity. A little caution will reduce your
risk in these matters of the heart.
1.
Use your
instincts. We know you want to trust everyone and
believe everything they say, especially when they're saying
what you want to hear. If it's too good to be true, it sometimes
is. More often than not, the person you've met online is
just the same in person, but take your time to get to know
her/him/them.
2.
Remain
anonymous. Until you know that the person or persons
you're interested in are the sort you want to meet, remain
anonymous. Most online dating services allow you to use
a nickname and send mail using only the nickname and your
dating service address. Don't be pressured to "send
mail to my private email" because you'll be giving
our your personal details in your return address.
3.
Remain
wary. Don't believe everything you see on screen.
If you have any doubts, ask questions. If there is even
the slightest bit of doubt, move on. There are SO many people
out there that could make you happy, so don't take a chance.
4.
Don't
be pushed! If you're not ready to meet someone, don't
be coerced into it. You'll be upset and you might be putting
yourself at risk. So what if you're accused of "not
being real", at least you'll feel good until you ARE
ready to meet in person.
5.
Spend
time online. If you're not 100% certain this person
is for real, spend time online chatting or chat through
email until you're sure.
6.
Talk
on the phone. You can learn a lot about someone by
talking over the phone. To ensure your anonymity, give a
mobile phone number or use a pay phone. If you hear anything
that gives you doubts, don't meet.
7.
Photos.
It's true that a picture is worth 1000 words. It doesn't
tell the whole story, but you can tell whether you're physically
attracted to this person. If the photo looks too good to
be true, ask for a photo to be taken somewhere you suggest.
If it can't be done, it might not be their photo!
8.
Personality
flaws. If your new friend displays controlling behavior
(needs to know where you are, is unhappy when you do things
away from the computer), shows anger or anything else that
makes you feel uncomfortable, then this person is not going
to make you happy. If you're an outgoing, friendly man,
a clinging, dependent woman will drive you up the wall.
9.
Be safe.
When you decide to meet for the first time, tell someone
where you're going. Take your own car, public transportation
or ask a friend to take you and pick you up. These security
measures won't last forever and if he or she is put off
by them, then tell them to find someone else. There is never
going to be only one person that you must have in order
to be happy.
10.
Always
be alert. Safety precautions are not only for meeting
new friends from the Internet. These guidelines are good
ideas whether you're meeting someone you've met at a concert,
in a pub or at the grocery store. Just be careful out there.
